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Thursday, June 15, 2006

Attitude Is Everything

What happens to you is less significant than what happens within you.
Two forces are at work around you, external and internal.You have very little control over external forces such as hurricanes, earthquakes, disasters, sickness and pain.What really matters is the internal force. How do you respond to those disasters? Over that, you have complete control.
No one on earth can hurt you, unless you accept the hurt in your own mind. The problem is not other people, it's your reaction to them.
You cannot always control your circumstances.But you can control your own thoughts.

Via:Max Stein.

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Thursday, May 11, 2006

Five Keys Of Goals Setting (Part 5) Time-bound

The fifth key tells us all about the Time-bound for one to get to his or her goals, its necessary for people to set a time when will get to their goals, if not one will relax on reaching to their goals.
Time-bound orTime-stamped:
And finally, put some sort of deadline to your goals. Write them down on paper. Put them on your calendar and remind yourself daily of your commitment, your goals, and your actions. Without this last piece, your goals will only be daydreams, "some-day" wishes. Don't just dream it, LIVE IT! Commit to making SMART goals and start working toward them today.

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Five Keys Of Goals Setting (Part 4)Realistic

The fourth key is about your goals being real for its not advisable for one to set an unrealistic goals.
Realistc: Keep your goals within the realm of possible, or you will get discouraged. Climbing a 5.11 after only training for a year is not very realistic. Redpointing 5.10a IS. Losing 10 pounds in a month is not only not realistic, but could potentially be dangerous, as you'd lose primarily water weight and lean muscle mass (remember, that's the stuff you want to KEEP, so that you keep your metabolic rate up.)

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Five Keys Of Goals Setting (Part 3)Achievable

The third key is known as Achievable or Action-bound. A goal ought to be achievable in terms of goals setting because on can't set a goal that won't be achieve in life.
A goal of reaching 15% bodyfat by losing a pound a week and gaining 1 pound of muscle a month is specific, and measurable, but HOW are you going to reach it? That's where you sit down and plan your ACTIONS-- what sort of cardiovascular workout do you need to do? How often? What changes do you need to make in your diet? What sort of strength training program would help with the muscle gain? Often times, in this step, you will find it helpful to enlist the help of an expert--a fitness consultant, doctor, nutritionist, close friend--who can provide you with suggestions and advice that will motivate and educate you.

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Five Keys OF Goals Setting (Part 2)Measurable

The second key signifies for Measurable.
Measurable: This means that your goals must be measurable in other to know how far one has gone in achieving his or her goals and also know the distance left for one to reah the goal.
If your goal is to be healthy, it will be difficult to assess when you have actually reached that goal. Your concept of health probably differs greatly from everyone else's. If "health" means not having the sniffles, eating a few oranges or kiwis a day might do the trick. If "health" means being able to climb a 5.11a without shoulder injury and enjoy your summer of climbing without having the lower back flare up, that's going to take a lot more effort. Someone whose goal is to compete in a first triathlon this summer will have a very different training program from someone who wants to do the Ironman in under 8 hours. The point of setting "measurable" goals is making sure that you can tell, weekly or monthly, whether you are making progress or whether you need to adjust what you are doing.

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Five Keys OF Goals Setting (Part 1)Specific

The five keys simply means S.M.A.R.T which signifies: Specific, Measurable, Achievable or Action-oriented, Realistic, Time-stamped or Time-bound.
Specific: This means that one must set goals that's as specific as possible to achieve something in down the road, because a goal that is not specific can't be achieved.
If your top goal is to lose 10 pounds, great. That's a SPECIFIC and MEASURABLE goal. But let's look at why that is your goal. Is someone else telling you that you need to lose that weight? Have you determined that because the number on the scale isn't where it was in college? What if, instead, you were to gain 10 pounds of muscle mass and lose 10 pounds of fat, thereby significantly reducing your body fat percent to 18% but NOT LOSING A SINGLE POUND? If you had more energy, more stamina, felt and looked better in your clothes, and could wear that strapless number for reunion that you've been dying to wear, would THAT be more appealing to you than "losing 10 pounds?" In other words, what we're trying to determine is the ULTIMATE goal, as well as the reasons behind it. Perhaps it's not so much the number, but the energy and good feeling that would come from what you'd need to do to lose 10 pounds. You might find that the goal itself is now completely different from what it started out to be!

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Four Laws Of Leadership

Law 1: Motivation is physical action. Note that the first two letters of the word are the first two letters of words such as "motor", "movement", "momentum", "motion". Those words denote physical action. Motivation isn't what people think or feel but what they physically do. Furthermore, it is not simply engaging in physical action but also preparing for physical action. In other words, there is action and also that which triggers the action meaning that without self motivation, one can't do anything reasonale in life.
Law 2: Motivation is their choice. Many leaders are clueless about motivation because they think it's their own choice. They think because they simply want people to be motivated, people should automatically be motivated if they really know what they want in life. That misunderstanding has caused many a leader to come to grief. The act of their being motivated is not your choice, it's theirs, always. Motivation can't be done to people. People must "do" motivation to themselves. Leaders communicate, and the people they lead motivate themselves.

Law 3: Emotion drives motivation. The words emotion and motivation come from the same Latin root "to move". When you want to move people to take action, engage their emotions. Motivation involves emotionally commitment that alone will drive you to your destination.
Therefore emotion and motivation works together.

Law 4: Face-to-face speech is generally the best way to motivate people (i.e., have those people choose to be motivated.) With these concepts in mind, you can begin to get a clear understanding of motivation by studying the past.

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The Success Formula

Goals: Firstly, you have to know what you're shooting for. In the team's case, it's to win. What are your goals at work? To be the best in your area or department? To get a promotion? To reduce the number of errors in your department? To increase productivity?

Skills: Once you have a goal, you must have the skills to be able to reach your goal. If you don't have them, you have to acquire them. Whatever you decide you want to do, you must learn and develop the skills necessary to put in a top performance every day.

Execution: Now, just having the skills doesn't mean you can use them well. You must be able to perform them to perfection. That means practice, practice, practice which leads to success.

Support: We all need to work together to reach our goals. No one member of the basketball team can win the game alone. Players need one another and rely on one another to get the job done. The same applies at work (and at home and school too and in every aspect of life).

Leadership :The team has a captain or cocaptains -- leaders -- to ensure the team executes the coach's game plan. Companies need leaders who direct their efforts toward profitable endeavors. Because a team without a leader, the job will not be done properly.

Desire: Last, but by far not least, you must have the burning desire to reach your goal -- whatever that goal may be. You can possess the sharpest skills, execute them perfectly, and have the most support and the best leadership.

via Bob Burg

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Wednesday, April 26, 2006

Deep Thoughts

To try thinking about the 'act of thinking' yields virtually nothing and is short-lived. When one tries, in a matter of seconds their mind drifts off to other unrelated thoughts… like their aching back for example. It doesn't matter how hard you try, you simply can’t do it... that's because the act of thinking is, after all, metaphysical in nature of which mortal man knows little.
Even the greatest thinkers couldn’t do it because nobody knows where to start but that applies to anything without a basis to form thoughts around. Only when one has a clue can the process begin. Therefore, when you find yourself unable to concentrate on something very long, there is a message in this. The length of time you are capable is directly related to the amount of information you have.
We don’t often ponder things we know nothing about however. We can almost visualize what happens when we try though… it’s like a door slamming in our face or a telephone disconnect... because our mind cannot concentrate without information. Because of this, one can actually ascertain their own intelligence by summarizing what they are capable of thinking about in depth. As a test, try preparing a list of those things you know except don't make a subcategory a category. So what would qualify as a category? That's the first challenge... how to correctly subdivide knowledge in the face of life.

The Stumbling Block

Occasionally, those few times when we try to reflect on the meaning of life, a stumbling block awaits us. It doesn’t wait around the corner, or down the road, but appears instantly… daring us to take the first step. While a 'stumbling block' is merely a characterization, a symbolic term, it is highly apropos for a problem in the way. Stumbling blocks are certain to delay reaching a goal or can cause one to scuttle the idea... perhaps one's lifelong dream. The effects of stumbling blocks therefore can be powerfully determinate.
Yet, knowing where to begin contemplating life is quite different than trying to solve lesser enigmas, those we might face occasionally in our daily affairs. Still, however solvable a 'lesser enigma' may seem, one which we might attempt to solve, we shouldn't automatically sidestep the seemingly unsolvable. It is strange in a way... even though a ‘stumbling block’ is ethereal, just the same they should be better described it seems, as having a particular size for example. After all, some stumbling blocks seem bigger than others.
In any attempt to get from point ‘A’ to point ‘B’; invariably in our path is where stumbling blocks lurk. Usually they are only small stumbling blocks but until they are eliminated, they just seemed bigger. Most of these usually wait down the road however, or around the corner, and do not appear instantly. Those which appear instantly on a path is one path we might henceforth ignore… perhaps foolishly.

Wednesday, April 19, 2006

Shake It Off!

One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well.

The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do.
Finally he decided the animal was old and the well needed to be covered up anyway, it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey.
He invited all his neighbors to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well.
At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement, he quieted down.

A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well and was astonished at what he saw.
With every shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up.
As the farmer's neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up.
Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and trotted off!
Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up.
Each of our troubles is a stepping stone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up!

Shake it off and take a step up!

Thursday, April 06, 2006

Heal Yourself WithYour Mind - Really!

If I couldn't correct my eyesight with contact lenses or glasses, I would have qualified as "legally blind". That is the strength of my prescription. Well, it was, anyway. In the last year and a half, my sight has improved by 30%, going from a prescription of -9 to -6. How did I do it? To be totally honest, I don't know, I don't feel I had done much consciously. What I have done, though, is totally in line with the idea that our bodies go along with how we feel.
A couple of years ago, I saw an ad for an optometrist who had written a book, "Seeing Without Glasses". I went to see him for a consultation. Dr. Robert-Michael Kaplan's premise was quite simple. He said that most babies are born with 20/20 eyesight. He talked about emotional reasons for having bad eyesight. For example, he said that often people start needing glasses about a year or so after a traumatic event in their life. That certainly was true for me. Dr. Kaplan says it is as if the mind didn't want to "see" the event.
I only saw Dr. Kaplan once and I skimmed his book fairly quickly. He has an extensive vision-fitness exercise program for improving vision and I know of a few people who have improved their vision through this program dramatically. Well, it seemed like too much work at the time so I put it away. I was too busy with working on a career change, a new business and a new life. In any case, I saw that "bad" vision could be improved. Over a year later, I started to get headaches that wouldn't go away. It felt like my prescription was too strong. I put on a somewhat weaker prescription and was floored - I saw better and the headaches were gone. This process has now been repeated six times. It is as if the positive changes in my life and career have allowed me to "see".
I have read that people with multiple personalities often have different prescriptions and illnesses or allergies in their respective personalities. If this is the case, body symptoms must be less "real" than we think and our mind state affects our body in a big way. A superb reason to focus positively!

Focused Consisteency Counts

We have all heard that $50 invested monthly for 25 years grows more than $600 invested once a year for the same length of time. The same applies to time invested in your personal and professional growth. If you have been putting off doing something until you have "more time", realize that you are not likely to find more time. If the past few years are any indication of future trends, time is likely to become an even more valued commodity.
Instead of waiting for more time to "magically" appear, create a small window to do what you have been putting off. Then use that window on a consistent basis. For example, if you want to improve your skills at using the Internet in your business, set aside a specific 30 minute time period twice a week. Then treat this time period as an important appointment that you keep every single time. In a few weeks or months, you will be pleasantly surprised at how much you accomplished!

Stretching Comfort Zones Need Not Hurt!

As part of the stand-up comedy class I took, we were to have a showcase for the 12 people in the class. I was genuinely excited about the showcase. As a professional speaker, I am used to being on the platform and I enjoy the experience. This time, I was really looking forward to the prospect of making people laugh - I will confess that this is one of my favourite parts in any of my talks anyway. I believe that laughter has just an amazing capability to bring people together and help them retain ideas better.
So - I was excited about the showcase. THEN I started to invite people and most of the reactions (even from other professional speakers!) were "Wow, you are brave to do this!!" Then I started to doubt my own excitement. I thought there was something wrong if I didn't feel afraid - and so I started to get nervous. By the time the showcase day arrived, I was a nervous wreck! Fortunately I remembered on the stage that I was there to just have FUN and so I did! Based on the laughs I got, others had fun as well. The lesson from this? If you feel excited and others think you should be afraid, forget the others - STAY EXCITED!!!

Wednesday, April 05, 2006

Focal Point Of Success

Fortune will flow into your hands like a river flow into the sea if only you can invest a high percent of your time on a high value activity with big pay off.I mean you can attract great riches into your life when you harbitually focus all your heart and mind on that critical action that will lead you to attaining your much cherish goal.Let me tell you, you can achieve anything in life when you concentrate all your mental and physical energies to work on one particular task that gives you the maximum result.It was the nineteeth century economist and sociologist Vilfredo Pareto who propounded the principle that given a large number of items, a high percentage of the value of the item is concentrated in relatively few of the items.This principle came about over time when Pareto discovered that eighty percent of the land in Italy then were owned by twenty percent of the population. When you applied this principle into your life your productivity will notch up by as much as fifity percent. And you can get this done when you identify your most important task and focus singlemendely to doing it. Then delegate, outsource or completely eliminate tasks that of low value.Do you want to succedd in life? Success begins with a clear decision. Decide exactly what is it that you want. Then commit yourself zelously to its attainment with unswerving determination. Clarity is everthing. You must be absolutely clear about what you want. Then set a goal which must be clearly written down. A goal is a deliberate selected result towards which you choose to channel all your activity. A goal is like a harbour where the captain directs his ship. After you have set your goal then construct a step by step plan that will take you to that goal. You must develop a dogged resilience to follow through your plan regardless of obstacles.If you decide exactly what you want in life, make a realistic plan and confidently pursue that plan I tell you, there is absolutely nothing you can not achieve as Paul J. Meyer observed; whatever you vividly imagine, ardently desire, sincerely believe and enthusiastically act upon must inevitably come to pass.

How Do You Measure Success?

To laugh often and much;To win the respect of intelligent people andthe affection of children;To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends;To appreciate beauty;To find the best in others;To leave the world a bit betterwhether by a healthy child,a redeemed social condition,or a job well done;To know even one life hasbreathed easier because you have lived -- This is to have succeeded.
May you know this in your Heart of Hearts...
Ask yourself,
"How can I use this wisdom in my life today... in this moment"
Just pause for a moment...
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Allow you inner wisdom to speak to you, and ask your Heart, "How am I already successful in my life?"
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Allow your Heart to speak to you, have the courage to hear this incredible source of energy and wisdom within you.
b - r - e - a - t - h - e!!!

How Can I Bring More Success Into My Life?

This week's wisdom concerns success. What is Success? Does it mean more money, power, or a larger house or auto? Has our outside world shaped our perceptions and led us to believe that we need more in order to be successful?
A Personal StoryYears ago, I used to think that success meant "getting" the things that I was striving for. And yet, the harder I tried the more they eluded me. There's an old adage that says "If what your doing isn't working, try something different!" I had a feeling that something wasn't quite right. A hunch, an intuition that there was something more. But I didn't know what it was.
I remember for weeks thinking that "something was wrong with me." But something in me kept whispering (as wisdom often does), "Step back and look at things differently." So, I began to reassess my job, my life, and most importantly - my perceptions. How I was thinking or reacting to things in my life. Someone asked me, "Paul how do you define success?" I thought for a moment and responded, "I think that success is moving in the direction towards my goals."
And this person responded by saying "Have you ever considered that how you define success determines if you are successful or not?" I said, "Hmmm, in other words, it's possible to be successful even if you don't get a tangible result?" And being the good teacher he was, he responded "Maybe even when things don't work out immediately, they still work out for our best interest and if we look at success as a current state, we are successful."

Friday, March 31, 2006


Maturity is patience.
Immaturity is the "I want now " attitude.
Maturity is the ability to stick with a project untill it sit completed.
Immaturity is constantly changing jobs, friends, and marriage partners.
Maturity is the capacity to face unpleasantness, frustration and defeat without complain.
A mature person knows he can't have everything his own way.
Maturity is loyalty.Loyalty to your husband or wife, teacher, employer, friends.
Maturity is the ability to live up to your responsibility; it means keeping your words.
Maturity is integrity.
Maturity is the ability to make decisions.
Immature peolpe explore possibilities and then do nothing.
Action requires abilities and to do something worthwhile with them.

Are You Like An Eagle,Fish, Or Rabbit?

A long time ago I read an analogy that has stuck with me because of the truth it holds. It talked about a fictional school which teaches three kinds of courses - swimming, flying, and running. The school has three students in it. A fish, an eagle, and a rabbit. Although each of the students excels in one course, each student also flunks the other two courses, very badly in fact. The teachers want to produce "well-rounded" individuals to prepare them for "real-life". It's their job.
What would the result be in such a school? At first, each student would be super proud of their performance in the courses they are naturally suited for. If their teachers remembered, they may praise them for the good job. If their teachers were concerned about keeping their own jobs, they would likely spend a lot of time with the other two "problem" students, trying to help them improve performance at something that was completely unnatural. For example, the eagle would come close to drowning in every swimming lesson.
Maybe the rabbit would be told that flying is where the world is going, that's where the future jobs lie. So he'd be determined to fly and he'd be upset at his own incompetence. His teachers and his report cards would likely support him in that view. If he was smart, he may even learn some ways of cheating the system. Maybe he'd run up the hill as fast as he could (he's good at running, after all...) and then he'd jump off the hill. Might get some low marks and lots of pity. Meanwhile, the eagle would fly with no effort at all. Great for the rabbit's confidence? Unlikely.
Maybe this situation is clearly laughable but it happens all the time. Did you ever take a job that was wrong for you, because it was "in"? Did you feel like the eagle trying to swim, upset at seeing all the fish around you swim happily and easily?
Know yourself and your talents and passions first. If running is what you are best at, there will always be space for a great runner. It may be tougher when running isn't in these days, but a superb runner will always do better than a consistently drowning swimmer!